First, I did not choose this feature to bash Tony or Eva. Quite frankly, I have no idea about the circumstances surrounding their divorce. The reason I chose it is because of what it made me think: “Ladies, don’t get stuck on stardom.”
Am I only talking about movie stars, models, musicians and star athletes? Well, all of these would certainly be included, but on the more common level, I’m defining stardom as representative of those external things to which some women are very attracted: great looking car, expensive suit, perfect hair, lives in a condo, important job, etc. Now I’m generalizing, but is it wrong for women to be drawn to such things? That depends.
Are any of the outward things I just mentioned good indicators of his inward character? Women should be careful not to get “stuck” on a guy based solely on these signs (though it’s not a bad place to start). It could be dangerous to your heart. By “stuck” I mean that you have settled on this man as “your guy” and everything you now do becomes centered on making that a reality.
What we allow to capture our attention indicates what we value. It can prove hard to break things off with a “star” who you later find out to be a player because after all, he still has all the stuff, and if you’re honest, that’s what you were really drawn to in the first place.
To be “playa-proof,” you must value good character above all else. If players have the money, if you watch closely, you’ll see them spend it on things to make them appear authentic: clothes, car, hair, etc. Yes, a good guy can have nice things too, but he will also show you kindness, honor, gentleness, patience, and support. Nothing a man owns can tell you who he is on the inside. You must take time and observe his actions and then judge objectively. It’s not a player’s car or his shoes or his hair or his job that will hurt you, he will.
Be “playa-proof” sister!
Marius
P.s. This is a great time to review our very first “Playa-Proof” post back in September entitled Can You Trust Him?
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